“Truth is between people, like silence models music”
I believe that Therapeutic relation should be built as a genuine encounter between people: the therapist and the patient /client (individual, couple or family)
Inside this encounter, looking for the meaning of your suffering, you can discover a new vital and creative way to look at yourself, your life and your relationships.
Often people feel and live their own problems by themselves and so they decide to ask for help alone. This is the case of individual psychotherapy, whereas a person begin a journey on its own to discover something new.
Even if I may work with a single person I will take into account his relational and familiar context. Family, with his history, will be always a nutritive for the therapy, even without the physical presence.
Nowadays the couple-system is in mayor distress: divorces and separations are increasing in every life stage, from the beginning, where the couple is still building itself, to couple with 20-30 years of marriage. The stressors can be very different: on one side is going down the myth to be together only for the appearance, on the other side the relational disease which involve everyone as a person is going to stress the couple too. An harmonic and lasting dialogue between two units seems to be sustainable only by very few lucky people.
Often the crisis of a couple emerges from a child symptoms, sometimes an evident conflict or the awareness of the suffering brings one of the partner to ask for help. All of these situations could permit the partners to reflect about their relationship and activate resources for a change.
Family is the first system we belong to and who brings us to the world. This is why is so important to take account of it during a psychotherapy and, when it’s possible, involve all the family members.
As professor Andolfi, the founder of my psychotherapy academy, says: “ Family is a laboratory of research and knoledge of yourself” and when everyone is involved in a trasformation, it will be stronger and lasting. Family willl be more flexible and capable to face crisis and sufferings in the future.
As well as the crisis of a couple, children are often the ones who bring the symptoms. It can be a relational or behavoural problem in a child, alimentary disorder, relational closure in an adolescent. Behind it there’s often a bigger suffering which involve all the family. I believe that face a monster together is easier than alone.